“We didn’t want to be a burden to family,” she says – a sentence often heard when people move to a place like Bupa Parkstone. “Our daughter is marvellous – she cares so much and she was worrying about us; we didn’t want to impose on her.”

“But now we’ve moved here,” says Paul, “she is happy. She knows we have people around us and help on hand if we need it at all times. She goes away quite a bit with the family and now she can do it without worrying about us.”

The Wheelers made their decision quickly. Paul had been put off by a “pushy” agent from a rival village but they jumped at the two-bedroom apartment at Parkstone.

“When we first got there, Kerry said she didn’t think we’d like it because she thought May would miss her garden and I would miss my workshop. Then, as we were heading out, I could hear my wife and daughter behind me already planning and deciding where we might put some of our things.”

Not only have Paul and May found new friends at Parkstone, they have, as Paul puts it, “come out of our shells”. May, in particular was shy, he says, but since moving to Parkstone has developed new-found confidence.

“I think it’s just living here and being with people all the time, May says. “It makes a big difference and, yes, I do have a lot more confidence now.

“If you’re feeling down in the dumps, all you have to do is go for a walk in the corridors and you’ll bump into someone you know and you’ll have a good natter – it just makes you feel better.”

Both are avid choir singers and Paul has now graduated to being choirmaster, leading the choir of 22 people. “It keeps him very busy, I love it,” says May.

“May’s the wardrobe assistant,” jokes Paul. “You feel a lot better when you’ve had a good sing,” says May.